Coping: A Survival Guide for People with Asperger Syndrome
- One thing autistic people are often particularly good at is
- A lot of your efforts in life might be getting a very poor
pay-off and you might be finding that everyone around you is
speaking freely to each other in a way which seems like nonsense
- If you try to join in by talking back in nonsense people get
- If other people can complain about you speaking nonsense why
can't you complain to them about their nonsense? It's just not
fair. Are you annoyed? If you are, you have every right to be but
you cannot change the way things are. This book might however help
you to understand other people's nonsense better.
- The problem with worrying is that it will often distract you
from what you need to be concentrating on if you are to solve the
- With some problems seeing the funny side can make it easier.
If you can learn to laugh at yourself many of your worries might
- Many people keep all their problems bottled up inside and look
as if they're on top of the world but many people need to talk
about their problems. The trick is to talk to the right people and
not the wrong ones.
- Don't talk about your problems in public or to people who you
don't know (except counsellors). If you do you will be
broadcasting your weaknesses to the people around you. Don't think
they won't be listening.
- Talking about your problems in public may get sympathy in the
short term but will probably isolate you in the long term.
- You may talk about your problems with teachers, parents, close
relatives and sometimes with friends if you can get them on their
- Sometimes but not always it is alright to talk about your
problems with friends in a small group but it should be relevant
to the conversation.
- When you do talk about your problems, try to do it without
putting yourself down too much. Negative talk causes you negative
feelings and negative feelings make you less able to defend
yourself. You don't want to get bogged down into a vicious cycle.
- With reference to this last statement, try to get into a
positive cycle if you can. This is called PMA (positive mental
attitude) whereby thinking about your positive assets makes you
feel more positive about yourself and better able to defend
yourself from put-downs.
- Some times you may get labelled by people as useless or
ignorant. This might be because you are not getting the
opportunity to show any intelligence. NOT because it is true.
- A horrible feeling having to deal with is guilt. If you think
you are to blame for something you must ask yourself if you know
that you were doing something wrong. If you didn't know, or you
only had a vague feeling about it then you cannot blame yourself,
even if other people are. All you can do is to tell yourself that
you will try not to do it again.
- Often apologising to someone can help to ease the guilt but
ONCE is enough. If you over apologise you might start to look shy
- If you think that the world is pitted against you, this is an
illusion. Also, everyone feels like this occasionally.
- Remember to be patient about using this book. Personal
development can be a slow and difficult process.
- Another problem you might face is that achieving things by
half does not feel like enough. You may be an all or nothing
person but remember this might be the autism speaking.
- Remember the key word is DETERMINATION and if you know in your
heart you can do something then you must go for it
Coping: A Survival Guide for People with Asperger
Getting the best from this
Looking on the bright side
Distortions of the truth
Humour and conflict
Sexually related problems and points about
Finding the right friends
Keeping a clean slate
Living away from home
Jobs and interviews
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