Coping: A Survival Guide for People with Asperger Syndrome
Keeping a clean slate
- Whenever we go into a completely new environment and no-one
knows us yet, we start off with an undamaged reputation, that is a
- It is largely by breaking the unwritten rules of society that
people dirty their slates.
- If you can keep using what you have read in this book, then it
should be enough to allow you to keep a fairly clean slate, but
don't expect to keep it cleaner than everyone else's slates.
- Everyone tries to keep a mental note of everyone else's slate
in their little group. This includes things people have said,
things they have done, things they can and cannot do and the
general way in which they come across.
- It is mostly on the basis of your slate that people will be
able to make fun of you.
- If your slate is already dirty, don't despair; it is often a
reversible process and if you are patient by ceasing to do
anything wrong it should slowly improve.
- Try not to tell someone too much about yourself or any of your
weaknesses unless you have got to know them quite well because
knowledge is power. This does not mean you have to bottle things
up. (see chapter on Worrying)
- If you wish, then by keeping your ears open you can learn
about what's on other peoples slates.
- Some people like to stand out. People who stand out but who
cannot keep to the unwritten rules whilst doing so, can very
easily make themselves into a target for other
people's teasing or neglect.
- Making a spectacle of ones self is also an easy way to become
a target; but if you have Asperger Syndrome then it is often very
difficult to know exactly what this means.
- Making a spectacle of yourself is normally about doing things
in public which makes you look different to everyone else
(being the odd one out).
- People who are able to stand out and be popular at the same
time are said to have charisma. This is a gift
which some people have but not others and it can often involve
having a very accurate understanding of what is going on around
you. It is popular belief that you can only have charisma if you
were born that way but in the case of Asperger Syndrome this
statement is not applicable.
- It is usually better to stand out from the inside than on the
Coping: A Survival Guide for People with Asperger
Getting the best from this
Looking on the bright side
Distortions of the truth
Humour and conflict
Sexually related problems and points about
Finding the right friends
Keeping a clean slate
Living away from home
Jobs and interviews
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