Coping: A Survival Guide for People with Asperger Syndrome
- Amongst certain groups of people, you might decide you want to
come clean and tell them that you are autistic. This is entirely
your own choice.
- You might, however, wish to tell just one person in the group
(preferably the one who is friendliest towards you) in which case
if you want it kept a secret, it might be a good idea to say so,
otherwise the message might spread behind your back and it can be
extremely difficult to tell whether or not people know.
- If you are coming clean for the first time in your life, it
might be a very difficult move; but as people find out they might
become a little less hostile and a little more accepting.
- On the other hand, you might have come clean to so many
different people that you are sick and tired of saying it.
- You might find coming clean a more effective tactic as you get
older. People who are caring and mature might bring many things to
your attention in order to be constructive. However, it is better
if they do this while there are just the two of you in the room.
You may need ot point this out at the time.
- Coming clean might make some people very interested in you and
may give you a lot to talk about.
- If the message that you are autistic gets to someone who has
been giving you a particularly hard time, it may make them feel
guilty and do some good, but not always.
- The worst reaction you can get is when people become more
hostile towards you because of having found out. This will nearly
always be from people who didn't like you much to start with or
who have little or no knowledge of autism.
- To deal with people who don't believe you when you say you are
autistic can be difficult but to have a detailed understanding of
the problem can be very helpful in shattering the myths (e.g. when
people say you can't possibly be autistic because you make too
much eye contact, or even because you can talk!)
- Amongst children or young teenagers it might be a better idea
if you do not come clean, at least until you know them very well.
- Within the world of autism and Asperger Syndrome, there is
quite a demand for 'out of the closet' Asperger sufferers, who are
able to explain to parents, teachers and professionals exactly
what it feels like to be autistic. There can also be money in it.
Coping: A Survival Guide for People with Asperger
Getting the best from this
Looking on the bright side
Distortions of the truth
Humour and conflict
Sexually related problems and points about
Finding the right friends
Keeping a clean slate
Living away from home
Jobs and interviews
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